How To Talk About Your Parents About Bartending School

Parent’s don’t always have the easiest time with bartending school. A lot of them can’t stand the idea of their kid serving alcohol. A lot of young adults have preconceptions that they need to follow their parent’s career, go to this college, and get this job. Most of the times, however, there’s a misunderstanding. But everyone is afraid to bring up the conversation.

  1. First don’t be afraid to talk to them about your goals. Getting over that fear is one of the biggest obstacles many of our prospective students face when asking their parents about something they aren’t sure is good or not.
  2. Ask yourself why you are thinking about Bartending School. Do you actually want to learn bartending? Why or why not? Is this going to be a part time job or a career? Do you the idea of creating eye-catching drinks for a living? Asking questions like this will help you articulate the reasons why you wanted to be a bartender and will help you explain yourself to your peers.
  3. Take ownership of the process. Talk to your parents about touring bartending schools. Ask around to see what your friends think. Do your own research and make sure it’s a good fit for you.
  4. You’re not too young to get a job bartending.  One of the biggest myths is that you have to be over 21 to get a job bartending. The legal age to serve alcohol in most states is 18. Pennsylvania and New Jersey are included in this. Most of our students are under 21, and they do in fact, get jobs working as bartenders.
  5. But I am too young to drink alcohol isn’t there something wrong with that? Yes and no. You can’t drink so you can’t know what the cocktails you are taste like, or if they’re even drinkable. However, it’s not that bad. The greatest advantage you have is that you are young and driven. Bars are used to working with experienced people that bring with them terrible habits and who have job hopped a lot for a myriad of reasons that are typically not good.

    Moreover, if you want to work at some of the top bars in the country, they will likely have you start as a bar back. This is typically a unavoidable process for every top bar and these bar back spots are very competitive. Starting young and showing a huge desire to succeed in the industry will give you a huge advantage against people going after the same job. Showing a willingness to learn and attempts to learn about the industry will help even more.

    If barbacking or serving is not something you’d like to start out doing, you can still get a job bartending. Many of our students are under 21 and do, in fact, get jobs bartending. Catering companies, country clubs, and local sport bars are some of the biggest employers for people under 21.
  6. Define success on your terms. Determine what success means to do. Would bartending give you happiness? Would it create the environment you want to live in? Is the money the money you want to make? The point is to define your own life goals, and share them with the people who matter most. Talk to them about your dreams, what you want to accomplish and how or if attending bartending school will help you accomplish that goal.

Being willing to take the risk and talk to your parents about Bartending could open future doors that you've never thought possible.